She’s an attention seeker and she’s getting off toying with you. Also the fact you are giving her attention is a huge turn off for her. It makes your status way below hers pyschologically.
Get on POF and Tinder and chat to some new girls. If you’re not up for that enjoy some hobbies. What do you like to do? Indulge in it. Make a plan for your future in terms of career or business or investments. Make plans for self improvement generally, ie fitness, diet, skills you want to learn.
You’re in a bad mental state and I promise you the solution is not with this girl. She doesn’t give a shit about you. You shouldn’t bother with someone who doesn’t have any consideration for your feelings.
No you just have to not look I guess, people post a temporary pic or video of maybe what they’re up to etc as a story, so you just have to do your best to ignore it. More often than not I’ve genuinely been looking through my mates stories and forget and by then it’s too late
2 posts later and you’re saying how you’re now messaging her calling her out.
You’re super self-destructive and volatile. I think you need to take a look and reflect on how it is you react to things and how that relates to your impulse control (or potentially lack of) as I think a lot of the issues you have with women stem from that.
Play it cool. From what I can read, you have a habit of going for girls that don’t like guys who are intense, needy and overbearing and then the way you tell it you act in exactly all 3 of those fashions.
No offence, I know this is harsh, but I think you need to seriously do some thinking about:
A.) The type of women you go for
B.) The way you act and react with those women
It honestly seems like you’re shooting yourself in the foot in a lot of you relationships
@Gio Do you think you’re learning anything from these experiences? I don’t mean “I’m such a so & so”, I mean learning how to go about negotiating these situations in more appropriate, healthier ways than before.
Because I swear it sounds like basically the same situation as last time and you’re panicking the exact same way?
Wary of giving advice as it’s dangerous and always different person to person. But surely compounding your stress to the point where it’s borderline self-harm is by far the worst thing you can do.
It’s kind of hard to be ready for committed relationships when you aren’t really trying to negotiate stressful situations. How will you handle worse situations in the future? But maybe it works for you this way I don’t know. Sorry if I’ve got the wrong end of the stick too I’m not trying to insult you.
But simple message a stranger would say to a stranger on this issue. It’s one of the worst ones to hear and the easiest advice to give, but almost always the right advice. Chill the fuck out and move on.
I don’t really want to move on yet man, but everything else you’ve said I totally agree with, and believe me never offense taken. I need any advice, regardless of how “harsh” it may look. That or even just nice to know people care, though as you say I gotta stop repeating these mistakes or it’ll get old fast and more importantly be massively detrimental to me and the future.
I am 33. Which is surprising I know. I behave like a young 20s man, in some respects great as you should always try to remain youthful, but when it comes to being responsible and level headed, I’m a little lacking.
Ahhh you’re still a pup. There’ll be plenty of people who’ll come and go in your life. Plenty more trials and tribulations. This rollercoaster you’re on is only gonna go upwards now, believe me.
You wanna get to my age. Long in the tooth, lost hair and balls start to sag.
I’m guessing you’re so consumed in this relationship is partly due to the fact you haven’t had many close relationships and you really want one to work out
Keep investing in yourself, work on relating to people better and playing the field and one will work out sooner or later. I promise you, you can get a relationship far more rewarding than this one.
Just think Van Gogh died pennyless and rejected by prostitutes, so he cut off his ear and later killed himself because he didn’t want his brother to support him anymore because his brother had young children and a wife. His paintings were burned as trash Today his art is amongst the most valuable in the world. The lesson is, don’t devalue yourself.
