Thank you all for your wonderful words, I messaged Him about it and he’s said this
Hey mate. Sorry was asleep, I’ve got (his sons name) tonight and tomorrow and he’s up at 6am so it’s early beds.
Nah pal, got my own women problems, so don’t need to be in anyone else’s. On and off with my ex so I’ve enough drama going on.
Tbh she didn’t say much other than you guys had broken up, didn’t really say why. And without trying to sound harsh, I’m not interested why either, got my own stuff to deal with. Had a chat about (his sons name) and then she went (her friends name)‘s house I think? Hope you’re alright, rough time! Especially with lockdown going on too. I’m back off to sleep now bud but I’ll reply in the morning if you do. Take care
@Midfield_Maestro I’m in terrible shape lately. Slim as hell skating all the time eating shit food, so decent ish legs but no arms chest or back or shoulders anymore, it’s literally disappeared. This is making it worse too.
@JakeyBoy no believe me the last girl, made me think I was the bad guy when I wasn’t, tbis time I know I’ve massively fucked up. I’m not really wanting to diverge her personal information and problems too deeply out of respect for her as she deserves everything, but I should have been far more sensitive on too many occasions believe me. She isn’t perfect as I said, nobody is, but compared to last time where I know I deserved better, this time I know my gf deserved better. Maybe not better than me, just better from me, and I tried so hard to show I Can be capable of that but she just kept saying how bad she felt even just talking to me and me making her bad feelings way worse
Then what were your biggest failings in the relationship? Because it doesn’t sound like you’ve done much wrong and it’s failed because she’s simply not commited to a relationship with you.
You could try contacting the woman and asking if there’s anything you can do to work out the relationship as you value her in all manner of ways. Say you want to work harder and be more in tune with her needs etc. Don’t expect much but don’t give up either if you want something
It hurts now but you can build a better relationship with another woman and you can find a woman who is more commited than this one. Who very probably isn’t. There’s billions of women in the world mate. You just need to work on finding one you’re compatible with.
It feels bad but it’s far better you know what type of person she is now and not after she’s entitled to half of your property and before she can withhold you having a relationship with your children.
No I thought that too… but didn’t bring it up since my first topic with her was why is she with him, and what the hell is going on, so a trivial question like that just, yeah wouldn’t have helped at all, but the more I think about it the more I realise she broke the current law to be inside his house, even if it was cold
And windy last night it’s beside the point.
@arsenescoatmaker As I said I was insensitive to her at crucial times, and we have argued, and I have got very short with her over some petty things but we’ve always worked it out.
This sounds like he’s trying to give an excuse for not replying, which I’m assuming you didn’t directly ask him for when you messaged him? Makes me think he’s hiding something. And if he was asleep, why did he then wake up and reply to your message later on that evening? (Unless I’m missing something).
Why would she go to his house just for an evening, for her to then go to someone else’s house afterwards, especially under lockdown rules? Even if he’s telling the truth and nothing happened it makes me think she wanted something to happen and then left and went somewhere else when it didn’t.
Apologies if I’ve got totally the wrong end of the stick, it just sounds very odd!
I don’t know you but you sound like a great guy, I hope you’re doing okay. Just remember that although it may feel like it now, this is not the end of the world and you’ll have plenty of opportunities to meet someone you’re a better match for.
I said to him “ Mate we’ve just broken up, hoping it’s all innocent But would appreciate respect if you’re up to something”
Why would she want something to happen, I don’t know. She said she just needs someone to talk to (she doesn’t have many friends tbh and this guy is a good man in all honesty, but they do talk a lot on insta/snapchat).
My good friend who knows everyone involved says I’m fully barking up the wrong tree with that one so I really hope she’s right, but I wouldn’t put it past them later down the line in all honesty.
Tbh bro I’d look at it more simplistically and if that’s a route she’s taken then sure, it’ll hurt you short term but good riddance. That’s no girl I’d be wanting to pursue for stability and all the other perks you get when in a solid relationship.
I just meant hypothetically. If she’s someone who’d go around and stick it on your mate then she isn’t prob someone you want to pursue.
Didn’t mean to sound like I’m judging her as I don’t know her of course. And tbh if she just went round to his for a chat then yeah fair enough, I perhaps wouldn’t be alarmed.
I mean, it was my suggestion to do that first as I put it on my profile so, can’t really fault her whatsoeber for that, however taking them off cos she needed to think what it’s like to be by herself kinda fucked me up a lot, as silly as it is to take that so personally.
Just give yourself sometime to think everything through. You’ll come to your own conclusions.
At least your not in the warzone you was last time. I’m confident you’ll get through this one even if you have regrets. Breathe @Gio.
Yeah, well she’s asked for space so I’m gonna give her that. My good friend says she’ll come back so stupidly I’m gonna hope she’s right, just give her a week or two and see what-If anything- happens, I just don’t feel like giving up on it yet, I genuinely haven’t felt like this about anyone ever, feelings are so much deeper than the train wreck you’re referring to in your comment, yeah.
Just don’t text her for a while. Space means space and sometimes that might mean several weeks or a month or two. It might be hard but coming across as needy or intense will not help your case either.
Fully agreed there, I just need to wait and hopefully she’ll come round, I have no interest with anyone else whatsoever so I really hope in that time she feels the same way and just keeps to herself for a while rather than jumping into something quickly or even in the next week or two, she’s told me she doesn’t want anyone or anything so I hope that’s the truth.
Okay so, tried to give her space, then she’s put some pic up of some guy messaging her. Like yeah it’s a super funny message but there’s no way she’s not trying to bait me with that… I said about it hurting me and she said “oh man I can’t do anything you’re watching everything I do!” I’ve made her feel super uncomfortable now and I think at that point it’s fully over isn’t it, she will feel trapped and never want to be in that situation ever again. I am such a fuck up.
If you want the person back then the best thing you can do is ignore completely imo, following everything she does just makes her feel like you’re desperate and that isn’t attractive.
If ignoring ends up resulting in both of you moving on, well at least you aren’t wasting time and energy on something that’s not going to happen anyways.
Your lessening chances by getting in touch mate.
Last chance saloon mate. Respect her privacy and don’t get in touch and hope for the best. Pretty much all your left with right now.
