“Don’t tell him, Pike!”
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Its still shit behavior. Put the shoe on the other foot, if you’d just broken up with her and then went to her co workers house even if it was innocent, that would be a dick move and its sure to hurt someone’s feelings. Someone who gave a shit about u wouldn’t do that. So even giving her the benefit of the doubt that it was innocent she shouldn’t be doing that, and thats not to mention the whole quarantine situation which makes it even more conspicuous.
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You’re almost certainly right, however nothing I can do about it now, ive said my piece and just need to leave it completely as everyone has said and wait and see if anything comes of it in a couple weeks or whatever, and if it doesn’t then that;s my sign to start slowly moving on, however shitty that wil lbe.
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Just came across this thread… Heavy shit goes down here!!
Probably one I will frequent often to either rage or drown my sorrows 
Learn to resent her behaviour and it’ll be easier to throw the attention seeking jizz bag in the bin.
Stick to your own principles and value yourself above petty shit. If you don’t learn to do this then this could occur again the future mate.
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Firstly grow some balls lad. Seriously take time out and focus on getting through this emotional patch, get your head right. It’s not like your together right now so anything you do will be looked upon negatively by her. Nothing better than to ignore all contact with her and watch what happens. She’ll either reach back out to you or she’ll have moved on. Either way you’ll get your answer.
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So just found out through a friend she’s been given an interview for the border force, it’s been her dream job all her life, she’s talked about it so much with me. Initially back then she did say she couldn’t ever leave me or go to a job to be somewhere away from me.
Obviously that’s changed massively, and I haven’t spoken to her really in a week rather than her messaging me saying she’s hoping I’m okay and we chatted then for w little while but kept it lighthearted and just regular stuff nothing heavy.
I’m still doing my utmost to give her space, not look at anything she posts or anything like that, but this is such a huge deal to her, so to me if it means anything to her it means something to me. I am absolutely delighted for her, even if it means she’ll move away.
Do I reach out In a day or so and say something simple like, “I’m honestly really happy for you and I know you’ll smash it x”
Or do I keep giving her complete space?
Obviously just want her to know that I still do really value her happiness and want the best for her, if I don’t give this massive deal in her life any attention, does it look like I’m selfish?
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If you have an obvious means of knowing that information and doesn’t come across as you snooping around, then why not?
I would however suggest to make sure to not spoil her focus from the interview else she will try to blame it on you if the interview doesn’t go well.
Just don’t message her. I think you genuinely need some time away from relationships to find a more balanced approach. I don’t know if unhealthy is the right word but it’s the word I’m going to use - your relationships seem unhealthy.
I was with my ex wife for 5 years and I didn’t seem to care about her even half as much as you care about the last couple girlfriends you’ve had. I loved her, absolutely. But I can’t imagine feeling the way you feel because I commit and engage differently to you.
But the common denominator in these failed relationships right now is you and I think that has a lot to do with how you handle yourself when the going gets tough. Maybe take time away from that and learn to build yourself up first. Work on being more secure, build some mental strength and fortitude and everything else will fall into place one day.
Don’t take any of the above to heart it’s just some observations from me brother. But I think you have to “man up”, take this one on the chin and keep it moving. When a woman starts moving like she’s moving she’s already switched off and there’s nothing you can do to change that.
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Yeah, not a bad point. No we have a mutual friend who’s just messaged me this morning about it asking if I’ve heard. I haven’t, but then my other friend says, flip it on it’s head, if I was still important to her she’d maybe come and tell me about it herself?
@SRCJJ yeah that last point is a bitter pill I really don’t want to swallow just yet, I’ve got so many friends saying she’ll come back around if I do give her the time.
Also sorry to keep posting in here about it with my questions but I’d rather post here than go into my own head and cave and say something stupid without plenty useful advice.
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If she wanted to you to know and it meant a lot to her for you to know, she probably would have told you herself.
Don’t message her.
I wholeheartedly agree 110% with everything @SRCJJ said
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They’re just being nice to you. When women switch off, it’s near enough impossible to get them switched back on.
When they sign out - they sign out.
That’s why I said, keep it moving and just do your own thing for now.
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That one.
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Fucks sake im a mess. Thank you though everyone it means a lot.
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This is true Gio.
I don’t think she is coming back in the same capacity as you would wish.
If you accept the change, then you can message her to wish her well.
But if it is a move to get her back, I would second what everyone is saying.
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It’s not like your post is distracting us from all the Arsenal related activity which is going on.
I honestly think you’d do yourself a lot
of favours speaking to a mental health specialist.
I think your relationship troubles and the way you work yourself up into such an impulsive ball of emotions may be a manifestation of deeper lying, deeper rooted mental health issues that you probably would rather deal with now than later on. Especially if you end up in a serious relationship and these insecurities end up in an explosion.
Seeing a specialist when I was really unhappy in my job and severely depressed did help me a huge deal.
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It’s fine.
You are talking to bunch of Arsenal fans who had a strong reaction to Persie moving to United. We have no grounds to think less of your reaction to actually losing someone you valued.
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I think you need to swallow the pill bro.
Just stop thinking about her. Nevermind this little bit of contact you’re maintaining while supposedly giving her space. That isn’t space
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@Gio please move on. You’re hot, but your behaviour is not. And she doesn’t sound all that nice either, by the way. Though I won’t judge her as we are obviously only getting your side of the story. But yeah, you’ve had some really good advice in this thread, you should definitely take it.
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