If managers at Arsenal were expected to be “proactive” and if the team had to “control matches”, then Wenger would have been sacked by now. Of course, they maybe like to pretend that they are proactive, but no team that doesn’t even have a coherent style of play, with a passive defensive structure that’s more about reacting to whatever happens, cannot be described as a “proactive team”.
Certainly, Simeone is much more proactive in that regard.
But anyway, I get it; If you want attacking football, don’t hire Simeone. That’s fair enough. But then why mention Benitez and Koeman? I certainly wouldn’t ever describe those two as attacking managers. Benitez record in recent years and his whole time at Napoli, should tell you that he probably is not the man you’re looking for.