Yeah pals said she was just all over me and she also messaged me today apologising for being all over me.
But I’ve gotta take responsibility, blaming others is a cop out.
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How are you going to answer -
How will you make sure you never interact with her again?
Yeah well that’s a fucking hard one unless I stop going to the footy.
Better get a decisive answer ready
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I’d at least give the next game a miss. Or go designated driver. It’s not the same thing but when I broke my ankle after a session with no memory of how I cut my drinking right back. I now either leave the pub or switch to water after 4/5 drinks. You have to learn and change a little when something big like this happens imo.
Not much more to be saying here, you accept you did wrong, you are sorry for it and you want to make amends. Over to your missus to see if that’s enough. Let’s hope so.
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You’ll be fine, Oz. She’ll be fine, too. Sounds like you’re in the doghouse, nothing more. If she’d wanted to end it, she’d have done so by now.
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Yeah I’m kind of in luck that yesterday was the penultimate round of the season and our last home game.
You’ll have to own the mistake without any strings attached. Nothing less will do. Try to put yourself in her position - how would you react if she had done this to you? Once you’re in that mindset, think really hard about what she could possibly say or do to YOU to help you get over that mistake. Would there be any way back for her?
That’s how she will be feeling right now and you have to give her the time / space to figure this out.
Imperative that you don’t come across as though you’re making excuses. Make immediate and decisive changes to show her that you can and will be able to change.
The trust is broken to whatever degree, and you have to build that back up. You know you fucked it and the ball is entirely in her court as to how this moves forward.
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Always feel like once the trust is broken it takes an awful awful long time to return and you also have to contend with heightened insecurities, jealousy and accusatory behaviour so long as you understand and accept that it’ll take quite some time you’ll be fine.
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Take it on the chin mate admit you fucked up and do everything necessary to make it up to her even if you have to make some sacrifices.
Take her out cook the meals, give up drinking and football for a while ( not for ever obviously 
) and make sure she’s really special.
Referring to women as "birds " isn’t cool either, its not the 1970s anymore.
Drink before. Drink during the game and sacrifice the session after the match and just go home.
Getting a drink, the game and out of harms way of this happening again.
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@Aussiegooner you need to find the snapchat fiend and chop the head off that snake.
Then apologise prefusely for your actions, but subtly remind them who the bread winner is 
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Awkward moment when it’s her 
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From my experience I think what you’ll be asked to do or at least expected to do (if she even forgives u at all) is stop going to the footy indefinitely, and you can probably resume once the trust is back. Either that or you’ll have to start including your wife in thw whole thing. I guess it’s healthy for some time with friends when ur in a marriage but the going out and partying thing without your mate never made a lot of sense to me. If I wanted to go out and party I would have never gotten married lol.
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You are talking to an Australian mate.
Getting blind drunk is like having soup.
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If he starts taking her to watch Arsenal under Arteta, the relationship will definitely be on the rocks.
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. She gave up after watching 60 mins of Ozil feed balls to Giroud years ago. Couldn’t understand why you’d rely on someone so slow to finish off the good work.
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Giroud’s a right bastard.
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I have to say u really fucked up here man, as much as I love u. Your wife seems really cool trusting u to go and party every week with ur friends. Many woman aren’t okay with that. Of course I’ve no clue if it’s caused stress between the two of you previously.
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I love you, too.
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