Arsenal is not helping

I would like to add that that’s just my side of story and only the first 3 days. She might have been just angry then but on 4th day, I had a verbal fight(I was in the right but shouldn’t have let it escalate) with someone so she must have been embarrassed then as well. And other smaller incidents. All pile up i suppose.

Or she saw something which i am completely unaware of.

So i really can’t say she is totally in the wrong because I did fuck up the trip.
Given her state of mind, i should have been more mindful.

Yeah i guess that must be true and it bothers me that love from her side might have been an exaggerated infatuation. I will just have to take the positives out of it and forget all about it.

She was perfect for me in many ways than just the way i felt about her.
Atheist, not wanting kids, not a family oriented person is something I wouldn’t find in society here.
It sucks that it didn’t work out because had it been, life would have been so much simpler, from the logical point of view as well.

How long did your ex take to come back to you?
Not asking to gauge what will happen to me. Just curious.

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Shame on anyone who liked this post!

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I’ve only read about half the thread but I still can’t figure out what you did “wrong”.

Personally, don’t even think it was your fault tbh. In fact, it’s probably a lucky escape. You need to stop blaming yourself for matters that are mostly outside of your control.

Hope you get back on your feet in time!

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To echo what everyone else said, you need to leave well alone. From a girl’s point of view - if I like someone, I make it pretty clear. I might try and ignore them but I’ll eventually cave. If I don’t like them I also make that pretty clear - which seems to be the situation here. A guy pestering me is pretty unattractive. I don’t agree with her methods, mind. I’d never just cut someone off without telling them why unless they did something pretty bad - but then it should be pretty obvious anyway.

I also wouldn’t call you a stalker. If a guy stood outside my house, I’d probably bake him some cookies, but I’m just nice like that. (And maybe a little weird)

Also seems like the problems you have go far deeper than this girl. How confident were you before you met her? And why do you travel 5 hours to work? Sorry if I missed these answers, there is a lot to read in this thread.

But from your first post alone it’s obvious the 2 of you are not right for each other. And you’ll realise that too one day. I’ve been cheated on 3 times! All with guys who were supposed to be the one. But you live and learn. Concentrate on yourself. It’s a cliche, but learning to love yourself is the first step. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?

Life is short. And love is rare. And we all deserve to be happy while we’re here. :slightly_smiling_face:

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awwwwwwwwwww :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :couplekiss: :couplekiss::couplekiss:

Trion, don’t listen to anyone who is giving you hope of a comeback with this girl, especially not Curt and his fratboy advice. :wink: There’s no coming back from that. Move on to the next candidate and accept your losses–same goes for our cub and your idol manager, as it turns out. :slight_smile:

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Unless our name is Jose Mourinho. Then we deserve a sack of shit.

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Absolutely lol. There really is no way she’s coming back at all lol

Clearly @Trion biggest mistake was not blasting a cheesy 80’s while doing his move.

Looking like Ryan Gosling probably would’ve helped too.

As a female I can confirm that that would definitely help. A lot.

Yeah, well i wont lie that i don’t harbour that hope but i do realise lot is now lost & any comeback won’t rectify it.

My confidence level is alright. If you want to derive from my actions something like i was too desperate for this girl because i cant find another; There might be some element of truth to it.
Dating is not as easy to come by in Indian society.
But my actions were also too desperate because of how she ended it.

While with hindsight, it became obvious She had made up her mind and i did have a lingering feeling that it has ended; but i just didn’t know for sure & i was between despair & hope.

She took almost a month before she started unfriending me on social media. So was there a chance to reconcile in that month? Should i have approached her then and have I been just late with my approach, i have no clue.
Simply zero communication, until i met her.

There were stuffs during the trip which i didn’t tell her which made my actions look worse so i wanted to convey the context to her. I thought hearing my side would help. Hence i was desperate to approach her. It backfired.

I just have no clue what i did which makes her have such strong reaction. More i think about it, it is all forgivable mistakes.

I really would have accepted the decision in lot mature manner, if she said something.

I travel that long for work is because the work place is 2 hours away. Rush and delay makes it 2and half hours, so overall 4-5 hours daily i am traveling. Been like that since last 6 months but it was easy because I had her & our trips to look forward too. For last month, it has only been the concern about her so it was difficult.
Have to switch now.

"I’ve only read about half the thread but I still can’t figure out what you did “wrong”

As far as i can tell something happened on the trip…

Well it’s actually crazy because I did employe some stalkerish tactics just as you did. In fact I punched a miror in her house so I was probably worse than you. All relationships and situations are different, and we’d been dating for a quite a while when all this shit went down. So it took her about 18 months before she basically opened the door for a relationship again. We spoke maybe 2 or 3 times in that span though.

Lol, Esteban how is picking up several hobbies, and improving yourself/self esteem frat boy advice?

What, even more shame? We’re already soaked in that stuff. @Burgundy is a grown man who enjoys music by The Weeknd, @TheSpecialCnut is a Peruvian guinnea-pig devouring monster, @Trion is a dedicated troll on the internet and stalker of women in real life, I watch porn like a champion and inhereted lots of shame from my grandpa, if you know what I mean, @Gladiator says things like “I once auditioned in a porno and the girl I was partnering with called me Gladiator. I don’t know why.”, @AbouCuellar is, well, @AbouCuellar and @Mysty and @Bl1nk are the commanders in chief of this here asylum. Shame comes natural to us. :welbeck:

On a more serious note, I don’t think anyone here wishes Trion bad luck or harm, and there has been lots of well-worded advice on the matter. However, some of the things he’s posted are not “cool” and I think it’s perfectly alright to point that out as well. To paraphrase Ingeborg Bachmann (really, really badly): "Man can be expected to handle the truth."

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Haha, That somehow makes me feel better about myself.
I was a mess in front of her. She was so angry, I wouldn’t even dare speak firm. Couldn’t even stand straight, so sat mostly while she stood with scariest facial expression in my life. Gosh I was pathetic.
Years from now, I will cringe so hard when i recall that night.

Part of the reason i posted here was because you lot will not be kind to me.

Not saying kind supportive words don’t help, it made me felt really good but i also needed some perspective, some sense from outsiders who can stay anonymous & don’t feel the need to sugar coat.

Again to posters with kind words, I mean no disrespect but i wanted both side of the suggestions.

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loool at all of this post especially that bit about your grandpa. To quote @Luca_from_Italy

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Think you had a lucky escape. . . as Drayton just got banned.

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Should be nominated for post of the year.

There’s other fish in sea…or as Morris likes to say, “there’s other hoes in the pool in Vegas” go get yourself some son.

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